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Saturday, 8 July 2017

All Good Things Come To An End

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The words "All good things come to an end" is is a phrase we have heard, but oftentimes try to ignore. 
We want things that we enjoy to last forever, however, God created this world with seasons. As one is ending, another is beginning. 

Ecclesiastes3:1-4  says, "To everything there is a season, a time to every purpose under the heaven: a time to be born, a time to die, a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal, a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance."

This weekend, we said goodbye to our esteemed graduates of Benson Idahosa University, the "Class of 2017" during our Convocation. Some of the students in this graduating class have become so close to our hearts. We have embraced them like family and can't imagine life on our campus without them. It would however be wrong for us to beg and plead for them to stay. They need to move forward for their own progress in life. We will feel the void initially, but God will fill that longing for them with another set of amazing students that have an equal or even greater impact on our community.

Sometimes walking away from a familiar place, situation or relationship can be the hardest thing to do. Staying feels safe and comfortable. Many have wasted decades of their life staying places past their time. It may be that God is calling you to take that leap of faith. You will never know what is through the next door if you never move forward. Many people pray for open doors, but don't have the courage to walk through them. If you don't take action, you may find yourself "out of season."                       

We have all made life commitments to people during seasons of our growth. While we should always love and support our friends, not every friendship and relationship is ride or die. Sometimes you can have a friend that is seasonal.  Pushing that relationship forward to your next season just doesn't fit. It doesn't mean that you love the person any less; it just means that not everyone is coming with you into your next season. You've got to be okay with that, if you're going to truly embrace the next level you are rising to.




Even our attitudes can be seasonal. You may have a reputation for having a certain persona. There was a time that the attitudes and actions of that persona served you well and got you places. As you grow and mature, that persona no longer fits the new you. You aren't that same person anymore. Allow yourself to evolve with your season. Just because you have a rep of being a particular way does not mean that you need to stay that way for life. The world is moving forward and so should you.

Knowing your season is essential; knowing when to stay and when to go really matters. If it is time for you to go, trust the season, trust God and move forward. Don't let fear keep you in a place longer than God intended for you to stay.


Understand and accept the fact that you will have to walk away, even when you have made a significant investment into the success of a thing. Your role may have been just to get it to a certain level. Someone else may be the one to finish the project.                       
Know your season and timing. Don't stay committed to something past it's time of usefulness in your life.

My prayer for you is that you won't stay in anything or anyone longer than your time.












Monday, 3 July 2017

Ten Years After Ben

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Today is the ten year anniversary of the birth of our first son, Andrew Benson Osarumen Victor Elijah Idahosa a.k.a. "Big Ben" or "ABOVE."

Sadly, our son lived until July 4th, just 12 short hours after he was born. He impacted our lives in immeasurable ways and will always be remembered as our first son, first child and as an important part of the script of our family.

It is hard to capture that a decade has already passed. Ten years later, the tears still leak from my eyes when we see the dates of July 3rd and 4th.  I've looked through the limited physical memories that we have held onto from his short life  and I'm thankful for the nurses in  Christiana Hospital, Newark, Delaware. They collected these precious memories for us, knowing that we would need something physical to remember him by. 

Because of God's Abundant Grace, the deep pain of our loss has been retooled into purpose.  On a regular basis, we use our pain to share Ben's story with others who suffer from infertility and infant loss. I have  peace of heart and mind and can see that God's hand has been with our family, every step of the way.




We are grateful to have been blessed with three miracle children since our loss. Having more children never erases our memory of the one you lose. We will always remember Ben and have the constant narrative in our minds of "what if there were 4 boys instead of three." 

For every one of you who has lost a child, an infant, a pregnancy or whom have suffered a stillbirth, you are in our thoughts and prayers. May the God who has enveloped us in His loving arms of comfort fill your hearts with peace. May God give you understanding in your moments of questions. May He replace your grief with joy and give you reasons to see His hand at work in your lives and families. May He give you opportunities to share with others who are hurting so that your healing will be complete. 

It seems inappropriate to say happy birthday to a child who is deceased, but, Happy Birthday Ben (III). We are grateful to God that you lived and taught us that everything is ordained for God's glory, no matter how difficult or painful. 


Saturday, 1 July 2017

Anticipation; The Key To Epic Success

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Ten years ago in June 2007, our world as we knew it changed drastically. It was the day Steve Jobs launched the iPhone. Prior to that, cell phones were simple, low-tech devices mainly used for making phone calls. The iPhone's nearest competition, the Blackberry, didn't remotely touch the functionality of the iPhone. The iPhone was a massive game-changer which evolved into a global life essential for all ages and a massive money-maker. It is estimated that within the year 2017, Apple's iOS ecosystem is on course to generate One Trillion dollars in revenue. Yes! One trillion dollars! I'd certainly put that in the category of Epic-Success!

What is it that made this hand held device so amazingly popular and a global phenomenon? I believe it can be summed up in this one phrase; "Anticipate the needs of your target audience."

Steve Jobs once said, "Get closer than ever to your customers. So close that you tell them what they need well before they realize it themselves."

I would dare say that "Anticipating Needs" is the one essential key to epic success in business and life.

If we were to all sit together and share our exceptional service experiences, whether it be from a restaurant, a hotel, a church, a school, a job or even a relationship or marriage, we would quite possibly find one commonality; the person or organization that served you anticipated your needs before you expressed them.

Anticipating needs before they are expressed isn't a new concept. In fact, it is as ancient as ancient gets! It dates all the way back to the creation of the earth. Before God created man, He anticipated the needs that our species would have and made him a suitable and self-sustainable environment.   This is why He waited until the 6th day to create man.

Read Genesis 1 (New Living Translation)

1. In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.[a] 2. The earth was formless and empty, and darkness covered the deep waters. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the surface of the waters.
Then God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. And God saw that the light was good. Then he separated the light from the darkness. God called the light “day” and the darkness “night.”
And evening passed and morning came, marking the first day.
Then God said, “Let there be a space between the waters, to separate the waters of the heavens from the waters of the earth.” And that is what happened. God made this space to separate the waters of the earth from the waters of the heavens. God called the space “sky.”
And evening passed and morning came, marking the second day.
Then God said, “Let the waters beneath the sky flow together into one place, so dry ground may appear.” And that is what happened. 10 God called the dry ground “land” and the waters “seas.” And God saw that it was good. 11 Then God said, “Let the land sprout with vegetation—every sort of seed-bearing plant, and trees that grow seed-bearing fruit. These seeds will then produce the kinds of plants and trees from which they came.” And that is what happened. 12 The land produced vegetation—all sorts of seed-bearing plants, and trees with seed-bearing fruit. Their seeds produced plants and trees of the same kind. And God saw that it was good.
13 And evening passed and morning came, marking the third day.
14 Then God said, “Let lights appear in the sky to separate the day from the night. Let them be signs to mark the seasons, days, and years. 15 Let these lights in the sky shine down on the earth.” And that is what happened. 16 God made two great lights—the larger one to govern the day, and the smaller one to govern the night. He also made the stars. 17 God set these lights in the sky to light the earth, 18 to govern the day and night, and to separate the light from the darkness. And God saw that it was good.
19 And evening passed and morning came, marking the fourth day.
20 Then God said, “Let the waters swarm with fish and other life. Let the skies be filled with birds of every kind.” 21 So God created great sea creatures and every living thing that scurries and swarms in the water, and every sort of bird—each producing offspring of the same kind. And God saw that it was good. 22 Then God blessed them, saying, “Be fruitful and multiply. Let the fish fill the seas, and let the birds multiply on the earth.”
23 And evening passed and morning came, marking the fifth day.
24 Then God said, “Let the earth produce every sort of animal, each producing offspring of the same kind—livestock, small animals that scurry along the ground, and wild animals.” And that is what happened. 25 God made all sorts of wild animals, livestock, and small animals, each able to produce offspring of the same kind. And God saw that it was good.
26 Then God said, “Let us make human beings[b] in our image, to be like us. They will reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth,[c] and the small animals that scurry along the ground.”
27 So God created human beings[d] in his own image.
    In the image of God he created them;
    male and female he created them.
28 Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
29 Then God said, “Look! I have given you every seed-bearing plant throughout the earth and all the fruit trees for your food. 30 And I have given every green plant as food for all the wild animals, the birds in the sky, and the small animals that scurry along the ground—everything that has life.” And that is what happened.
31 Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good!
And evening passed and morning came, marking the sixth day.



There are unlimited lessons in this passage. Theologians and Scientists have examined this passage word for word and opened up worlds of information and life lessons from it. The one thing that I want us to see is how God created the world systematically with ANTICIPATION. He anticipated the needs of the grass and trees, of the animals and of man. His creation timeline was strategic in how he ensured that each organism had the power and the environment to survive and thrive.


God was strategic in His creation. 

So obviously you may not be a Steve Jobs level CEO  nor as grandiose as God Himself, but, you are important in your own right and can learn from this concept of anticipation. We all serve someone, somewhere.

Are you married? Probably, the most satisfying days that you have had with your spouse have been the days when they pre-thought details in planning a date or a weekend away. They carefully chose the room with the view, they informed you ahead of time on how to pack (or maybe even packed for you), they made restaurant reservations, planned your activities, and thought through every tiny detail which would make you not just happy but completely satisfied. Imagine if you don't reserve this kind of epic-satisfaction for special occasions but instead plan this level of dedication and care into your everyday relationship. When you love someone and want to make your connection last and flourish, try perfecting the art of anticipation.

This proven time-trusted method works magnificently in absolutely every industry of mankind. When you successfully anticipate and plan for the needs of others, you will never lack people to serve.


It's high time that we put aside our self-centered ambitions and prioritize planning for the needs of those we serve.

Roger Staubach said, "There are no traffic jams along the extra mile."

Here is an everyday example of how you can put to practice the art of anticipating the needs of others. The next time you serve someone a cup of tea, be the Steve Jobs or the "God" of tea service. Plan carefully and anticipate their needs. Serve the tea with a beautifully covered tray, a saucer, a tea cup, a teaspoon, a tea pot filled with just the right temperature of water, a variety of teas to choose from, a variety of sweeteners, lemon, different choices of dairy, some tea cookies, serviette paper and a smile. When you do this, I'm quite certain that whomever you are serving will come back again and will be grateful that you anticipated their needs.



Look for ways that you can go the extra mile. Think about the people you serve and imagine everything they might need. Think about the various challenges they might face and solve them before they erupt. Don't wait for them to tell you what they need before you have prepared solutions for them. Give them more information and support than they expect. Make them feel like they are the center of your universe and that you are prepared to go to any length for their comfort and business. When you do this repeatedly, you will not only improve your relationship or business' reputation but you will improve the culture of the relationships / businesses around you. You will make the world a more beautiful and efficient place to live in and you will demonstrate the heart of God. Remember the Golden rule in Matthew 7:12, "...in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you..." Let's get on the road to epic-success as we perfect the art of anticipation.





Saturday, 17 June 2017

Who Do You Like?

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Who do you like? What kind of people are you attracted to? Who do you enjoy hanging out with the most? Who is that one friend that you could gist with all night and never run out of things to talk about?  Which friend do you look for first when you walk into a room or open your social media?


Have you thought of someone? Maybe you thought of a few people.  What do they all have in common? Where do you usually see them? What kind of conversations do they have with you that keep you coming back for more?

If you have noticed that the answers to the above questions leave you feeling a bit bad about your character choices, then, this post is for you. The purpose of this post isn't to make you feel guilty about your past; instead it is to make you proactive about your future.  We have all made poor choices in friends at one time or the other. The key to a secure future isn't to wallow over yesterday's mistakes; it is to be intentional about our tomorrow.

Our friendships really matter. 

Friendships frame who we become and oftentimes are a reflection of who we are on the inside.

Let's keep it real... sometimes it's our naughty friends that are the most fun to be around. We enjoy the gossip, the stories and the opportunity to "let it all hang out" with friends whose standards are conveniently low. We appreciate that they don't judge us or hold us accountable to moral excellence. Sometimes, in this world of high stress, our naughty friends can feel like a breath of fresh air. 

Am I talking to someone now?

I thought so!

The part of us that thrives on unhealthy friendships with ungodly people is our flesh. We are a three part being. We are a spirit, we have a soul and we live in a body. Our body (flesh) is the lowest form of who we are and is able to be brought into subjection to the Word of God. 

Romans 12:1 (NLT) admonishes us to give our fleshly desires to God. It says,

And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice--the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him."

We don't have to live controlled by our flesh in our choice of friends. 

Psalm 1:1-3. (NKJV)

1.   Blessed is the man
    Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
    Nor stands in the path of sinners,
    Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;

2. But his delight is in the law of the Lord,
    And in His law he meditates day and night.

3. He shall be like a tree
    Planted by the rivers of water,
    That brings forth its fruit in its season,
    Whose leaf also shall not wither;
   And whatever he does shall prosper.
Matthew Henry's commentary of this scripture explains it so clearly that I am going to share his words with you verbatim.  We all need to get a hold of the powerful life lesson in this scripture. We need to understand how wrong associations will take us down the slippery slope of progressive sin. Romans 6:23 tells us what happens when we give into sin, "For the wages of sin is death..." It is talking about spiritual death or separation from God. We don't want to experience separation from God. Our eternal life depends on it. 



This is what Matthew Henry says:


"The character of a good man is here given by the rules he chooses to walk by and to take his measures from. What we take at our setting out, and at every turn, for the guide of our conversation, whether the course of this world or the word of God, is of material consequence. An error in the choice of our standard and leader is original and fatal; but, if we be right here, we are in a fair way to do well.1. A godly man, that he may avoid the evil, utterly renounces the companionship of evil-doers, and will not be led by them (v. 1): He walks not in the council of the ungodly, etc. This part of his character is put first, because those that will keep the commandments of their God must say to evil-doers, Depart from us (Ps. 119:115 ), and departing from evil is that in which wisdom begins. (1.) He sees evil-doers round about him; the world is full of them; they walk on every side. They are here described by three characters, ungodly, sinners, and scornful. See by what steps men arrive at the height of impiety: Nemo repente fuit turpissimus—None reach the height of vice at once. They are ungodly first, casting off the fear of God and living in the neglect of their duty to Him: but they rest not there. When the services of religion are laid aside, they come to be sinners, that is, they break out into open rebellion against God and engage in the service of sin and Satan. Omissions make way for commissions, and by these the heart is so hardened that at length they come to be scorners, that is, they openly defy all that is sacred, scoff at religion, and make a jest of sin. Thus is the way of iniquity down-hill; the bad grow worse, sinners themselves become tempters to others and advocates for Baal."


My prayer for you is that you will appreciate the blessings associated with choosing the right associates. 

Psalms 1 verse 3 talks about the stability that you will have when you make the right choices in friendship. If you truly study these verses and get a revelation of what it is saying, you will be quick to walk away from some people. You won't walk away because you don't like them, but you will do it in an act of obedience to God, commitment to your future and self-preservation. 

This exercise of intentionally choosing the right associates and friendships is one that will greatly enhance your spiritual life and walk with God. 

Obedience comes with major rewards.  It is initially hard to do, but, once you start experiencing the benefits of choosing the right friends, you will wish you had done it sooner. Hopefully, the next time you are asked "Who do you like?" your answer will be one that pleases God and that has the fruits of righteousness attached to it.








Wednesday, 14 June 2017

The Power of "Bad Press"

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In Christianity and in the promulgation of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, it is "bad press" that brings about the biggest miracles. Persecution is one of the tools that God uses to make His name heralded around the earth. 

The people who really need to be influenced by great moves of God are not the happy, loyal church-goers. They are the sinners. The unsaved often hear of revivals first from people reigning insults at the fanatic Christians and laughing at the man or woman being used of God to demonstrate His power. 

Think about it! The greatest miracle ever, in all of the history of the world, happened in the face of persecution! Jesus was persecuted and through His death, He redeemed mankind back to God! 

This year, During the the Pope's daily homily at Santa Marta on the feast of St. Mark, Pope Francis said; "Christians must go where Jesus is not known, where Jesus is persecuted, or where Jesus is disfigured, to proclaim the true Gospel.”

Right now, there is a sweeping Global revival. We are being challenged to break away from our comfort zones and make a real impact. In different parts of the world, there is a deep drive for evangelism, a sincere cry for souls to be saved, and a roaring passion for the things of God. 

In communist-controlled government churches in China, there is a HUGE move of God taking place. Check out this link, here. 


In Brazil, we are seeing masses of people give their lives to Christ as the churches address social issues people are dealing with.


In India scores of Hindus are leaving the traditions of praying to their ancestors and are flocking to Jesus Christ!


In Nigeria, we are seeing some of the largest gatherings of people for the Gospel in the history of our country. 

While the world's largest cathedrals in Europe have become historic sites and museums, Nigerian Churches are filled to capacity and some are having 8 or more services on a Sunday, just to be able to accommodate the growing number of members. 

In Nigeria this month, we are experiencing a social media revival, where Christianity, prayer and worship have become the nation's trending topic through Nathaniel Bassey, a worship leader who obeyed God. His globe-shaking initiative called the 30-Day Hallelujah Challenge, has gone viral on social media and continues to draw in more believers every day!


One thing that every one of these great revivals and moves of God has in common is "BAD PRESS" or as the Bible calls it, persecution.

Luke 6:26 (ESV) says, "Woe to you when all people speak well of you, for their ancestors did the same things to the false prophets."

We are warned, through the Holy Scriptures, to avoid the trap of seeking a perfect approval rating. True global change agents have enemies and usually lots of them. 

Don't let the scoffers and those who stand on the sidelines laughing and pointing fingers at you stop you from jumping into your purpose with both feet. Yes, you may have a low approval rating. Yes, you may have some "bad press." Yes, you may even lose a friend or two, but your obedience will draw others to Christ and will help set you on the course of destiny. 

I applaud Bassey's response yesterday to the negative press that his social media Hallelujah Challenge is getting. 

On his Instagram page, he said, 
"ANNOUNCEMENT!
Please Please Saints, don't get into arguments with those who don't agree with this project. Don't insult or fight them. Those are mere distractions. The One to whom we are gathered these thirty days will speak for Himself - SUDDENLY. Please be focused. These are mere reactions in the Spirit. The devil has no new tricks.
But if you ever have to reply, please reply with this song.

YOU ARE THE REASON I LIVE
YOU'RE THE ONE FOR ME(2ce)
WHY SHOULD I FEAR WHEN I
HAVE YOU. SORROUNDED BY YOUR LOVE. YOUR EVERLASTING LOVE. "WHY SHOULD I CARE WHAT PEOPLE SAY, THEY DON'T KNOW. WHAT YOU MEAN TO ME. "



How do you answer "bad press?" How do you respond to insults? Your response is a reflection of your character. 

Look at how Jesus handled the people who insulted him.

I Peter 2:33 (NIV)
"When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly."

My prayer for you is that you will appreciate the value of persecution and bad press, that you will have a responsible answer for those who hurl insults at you and question your motives. May God bless you with the courage to be obedient to His Will and the strength to endure the laughs from people yet to discover His great power that is working in and thorough you. 

Got some "bad press?" Bring it on!!!



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