Saturday, 10 October 2015

Things my parents taught me about parenting, Part II

Recently, I posted about things my parents taught me about parenting.  The list is inexhaustible and so many more come to mind when I consider just how much I have learned from their example.  I want to share with my readers another ten very valuable lessons they’ve taught me on parenting that my husband and I apply in raising our three boys. These concepts have helped me a lot and saved me a lot of trouble.  I pray they do the same for you and that God continues to guide you on your journey to becoming an awesome Mom or Dad.


     1.   Know your children’s friends. It is important to know the kind of friends your children keep. it will give you an invaluable insight into their values and character. when you have open communication with your children's friends, you will become a role model for them and ultimately, it will be a safe guard for your children. It is equally important to teach your children how to choose friends wisely, and the importance of  valuing their  friendships. Making your house conducive for your children's friends is a great way to help you keep an eye on them.

Do not make friends with a hot tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered. Or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared.
Proverbs 22: 24-25
                           


     2.  Model forgiveness for your children by never harbouring anger against someone.  Your children watch from the sidelines and see how well you manage offences when they come.  Being quick to forgive and restore is a life lesson that will live on in your child’s future relationships.

In your anger do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your anger.
Ephesians 4:26



3. You are a daily example to your children on how to behave in marriage. They will follow your example.  They are learning from you how to love their future spouse and how to parent their own children.  If you want your children to have dynamic families themselves, then model that for them in yours.      

Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers. I Timothy 4: 16








     4. When your children ask questions you don't have answers to, find joy in discovering together.  You can teach your children how to research topics and find joy in discovery.  Showing them that you don’t know everything also helps them to manage their pride.  Look for different ways to learn.  Take them to the Library, have them join you when you seek advice from an elder, teach them how to utilize technology.  The options of discovery are endless.

It is the glory of God to conceal a matter; to search out a matter is the glory of kings. Proverbs 25:2







     5.There are many ways to discipline a child that doesn't involve beating. Be creative. Children need discipline and structure however they don’t always need it to be applied with force.  You can train them through time out, scripture writing, removing privileges, etc.  Ask God to show you what will be most effective for your child.

Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
Colossians 3:21



     6.Know what your children are watching on TV & choose their heroes by what you expose them   to.  Too often, parents use the television set as a babysitter.  Because the TV keeps their attention, we as parents tend to over use and under monitor it.  There are so many shows these days that reflect values and concepts that you may not want your child to adopt. Learn to limit TV time and monitor their watching habits.
     
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.  Colossians 2:8




7. Teach your children the importance of having their own relationship with God. Salvation is personal.  We need to encourage our children to grow in their faith and develop their own prayer life and fellowship with God.  Being in your home is not a guarantee that your child will be born-again.  You need to train them, expose them to the things of God and allow them to grow, just as you have grown.

God is faithful, who has called you into fellowship with his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord
. I Corinthians 1:9








8. Let your children make mistakes, however teach them how to get back up again and learn from them.  We tend to over-protect our children. We want to keep them from being heart broken or from having challenges in life.  Because we have gone through various pains, we naturally want to protect them from negative experiences.  It is your job to give them a safe environment to grow, however when they fall, use it as a lesson for them.  They need to know how to protect themselves next time.  You won’t always be there to help them or hold their hand.
For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again. Proverbs 24:16a

9. Train your children early on to tithe, it is a way to ensure they'll always be prosperous.  Training them to be generous is a life lesson that you will never regret.  You can train them to tithe off of the allowance that you give them or even from the toys they have been blessed with.  Teach them to be givers, no matter how small their gift may seem. Givers never lack.

One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly but comes to poverty. Proverbs 11:24


                          


10. Don't ever let your children see scary movies, they'll have unnecessary nightmares.  Protect them from fear and shows which depict witchcraft and demonic images.  While you might find it entertaining and are aware that these things are fictional, your child will have a hard time controlling his thoughts and fears. You don’t need him going to sleep at night, scared that there might just be some truth to that monster hiding under his bed.
"The eye is the lamp of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be full of light. Matthew 6:22





Thank you for reading these ten parenting tips. You can also read my previous post which has ten additional tips, and stay tuned for future editions. I started learning about parenting long before God blessed me with children. May God continue to bless you and guide you no matter where you are on your parenting journey.   I’d love to see your comments below.

1 comment:

  1. Thank you so so much Pastor Laurie for sharing this awesome piece. Though I have the lessons stored up in my head from reading your article, but I sincerely pray I still find this artice when I start raising my children. I want them to grow up in the right environment with all the love.

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