Wednesday, 11 November 2015

World Adoption Day

This week, all over the world, we celebrated #WorldAdoptionDay on social media by posting pictures of ourselves with smiley faces on our hands. Ever since I was a young girl I've always wanted to adopt, I longed to be both a natural and an adoptive mother. Children who are up for adoption pull on the deepest emotional chords of my heart.

I have so many strong feelings when it comes to adoption. Before I was married, I was a foster parent for the State of Delaware in the US for many years and had the privilege of raising children in my home that I didn't give birth to. I was their "mother for a season" and was honoured with the privilege to be able to impart into their lives. I was blessed with amazing children and thank God for bringing them my way and giving me the compassion that allowed me open my home to them. They've enriched my life in so many ways and I also believe that living in my home did a lot for them as well. The first child I took in was 13 years old and unable to read or write. A few years later, she was up to speed on her academic work and became a high school graduate with a certificate in cosmetology. The children that I took into my home are still very much a part of our lives today, even now as adults with families and children of their own.

My heart bleeds for the rejection and loss that many orphaned children have suffered at such tender ages. My heart bleeds that many don't have the safe haven of comfort from a mother or the sound instruction of a father. Recently, I became involved in helping a camp for children from the Northern part of Nigeria who have been displaced and orphaned by Boko Haram. I visit the camp and hold the children in my arms, bless them with spiritual and physical things and cry when I have to leave them. They have re-awakened the passion in me to adopt and to be a source of strength and succour to the child without parents.



While I deeply feel for them, I also admire their resilience. Especially teenage and pre-teen children who have found themselves in this condition. Many of them develop admirable coping skills and deep meaningful bonds of friendship and family.

Some years ago, my husband and I started the process of trying to adopt, here in Nigeria. We had already given birth to two children (1 living, 1 deceased), but felt like we were ready to bring other children into our home through adoption. We discussed this at length with our families before eventually meeting with an attorney in Lagos.

Our attorney was wonderful. She is a mature woman who has helped many families through the process. Our lawyer took time with us to be sure that we understood the life-long implications of adopting a child. She described the adoption process to us as tie and dye. She told us that adoption means that the orphaned child becomes your child, no different according to the law than the ones that I carried in my womb. She explained to us in depth how this child would now carry our name and all the rights and privileges that it represents. She reminded us that once we adopt, there is no turning back. She emphasized that you can't just decide one day that the child is more trouble than you anticipated and give them back. Adoption is permanent.


Despite all that she said, we were still eager to adopt, however, that adoption plan never materialised. We were not able to go through with it for a myriad of reasons. We are confident that God had a reason for it not to work. During the process however, we learned some valuable spiritual lessons that have stayed with us till today.

Adoption made us think of our own Christian life and relationship with God. When we become born-again, the Bible describes it as adoption.
We discovered in a deeper way that with God, once we are adopted as children of God, we become one with Him. He becomes our Father and never turns his back on us (even when we become more trouble than we are worth). He has made us His sons and has given us the authority to use His name. We can conduct business as His sons, we can pray in His all powerful name and we get results as if He is the one speaking. He doesn't restrict our ability. He empowers us with His power. The longer we spend in His presence, we begin to resemble Him, just like an adopted child does his parents.

You've seen it, right? A child who has been adopted into a home and has zero biological connection to a family many times just starts looking like the adoptive parents.

Read what the Bible says about adoption:
Romans 8:14-17
14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:
17 And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

May I ask you a personal question?
Are you in a place in your life where you need a change of identity? Are you tired of being hurt, broken, lonely and disappointed? Possibly over time, you have had many people try to lead you, but what you need is a real Father. You need a Father who consistently has wise counsel and is always by your side.
Jesus wants to be that Father to you. He wants to adopt you. All you need to do is accept His love and Grace. Just like the tie dye that the Lawyer spoke to us about, once you've accepted him, you are adopted for life. Your life will never be the same.

Romans 10:9-11 says
9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
11 For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.

If you'd like to be adopted by a Father who will never disappoint you and will always be there, I'd like you to pray this prayer with sincerity in your heart with me!

Father God, thank you for loving me. Thank you for giving your son Jesus to die on the cross for me and for raising Him from the dead. Jesus, come into my heart. Forgive me of my sins, restore my relationship with you. Jesus, you are Lord and you are Lord of my life. Amen

If you have prayed that prayer, you are now a child of God. You have switched families and are now a bonafide member of the family of God.
Adoption is a beautiful process of bringing together people with a permanent bond. I salute and applaud adoptive parents and hope to be a mother of adopted children myself someday. While I am waiting, I will live in the joy and satisfaction of knowing that I have been adopted by God. I will keep learning from Him what it really means to be an heir of God and a joint heir with Christ. By the time I have my adopted children, I will be even more rooted in the revelation of how inseparable and deep that bond of adoption really is.

Note: If you prayed that prayer above sincerely for the first time, kindly send me a message so that I can help you to grow in your faith.

Tags: Adoption, Foster Care, World Adoption Day, Salvation, Family,

1 comment:

  1. Thank you ma'am. I do love to adopt someday too..
    "once we are adopted as children of God, we become one with Him. He becomes our Father and never turns his back on us (even when we become more trouble than we are worth). He has made us His sons and has given us the authority to use His name. We can conduct business as His sons, we can pray in His all powerful name and we get results as if He is the one speaking" Great good news! Praise God!

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