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Session: How to stay in love even when you don’t feel like it.
1.
Thank
you for joining me for a tweet session on how to stay in love, even when you
don't feel like it.
2.
Marital
Love is more than a romantic feeling, it's a covenant and commitment.
3.
Euphoric
feelings of romantic love come and go. Live realistically.
4.
Find
positive marital role models whom you can confidentially discuss your
challenges with.
5.
It's
not realistic that your marriage will always be on the mountain tops. Real relationships
have peaks and valleys.
6.
We
are the product of our confessions (words) Prov. 6:2
7.
Affirming
your love with your words, despite your current disposition reignites feelings
of love.
8.
Ask
yourself, what is it that's making me feel like I don't love him/ her anymore.
9.
Deal
with the root causes of the feeling of ambivalence towards your spouse.
10. Communicate with
your spouse about habits or behaviors they have which lessens your feelings of
love.
11. Create an
environment for open communication where both positive and negatives can be
discussed without judgement.
12. Avoid the
temptation to fill the "love void" with other things and activities.
Consciously fill it with love building exercises.
13. Take the TV and
technology out of the bedroom. The less distractions, the better chance for
communication.
14. Many times, our
spouses reflect back to us what we are giving them. If you don't like what you
get, examine what you give.
15. Watch your words!
Avoid using phrases such as "I want a divorce," "I don't love
you anymore," etc. James 3:11
16. Bitterness or
unforgiveness is a poison that negatively affects your feelings of being in
love.
17. If you want to
feel in love again, you must choose to forgive your spouse for wrongs you may
have suffered. Mtt. 6:14
18. Jealousy and
suspicion kills romantic love. Choose to trust and believe the best.
19. Don't let the sun
go down on your wrath. Eph. 4:26
20. Settle disputes as
quickly as possible. The longer they linger, the deeper the negative emotions.
21. Communicate your
expectations with your spouse. Many issues can be settled simply with better
communication skills.
22. Discover the
things that push your spouses "love buttons" and do them frequently.
23. Discover the
things that irk your spouse and avoid those behaviors.
24. Mutual respect and
security breeds feelings of love.
25. Don't stop being
intimate with your spouse. If you're not in the mood, get in the mood!
26. Create romantic
daily routines and habits such as always kissing goodnight.
27. Avoid the trap of
making all of your conversations surround your children. Have intellectually
stimulating conversations.
28. Feelings of love
thrive when you are in the mode of selfless service to your spouse. Lk. 6:38
29. Discover an area
where you can serve your spouse which communicates love to him / her.
30. Living apart eventually
creates separate lives which makes the feelings of being in love difficult to
sustain.
31. Identify and
eradicate toxic friendships and conversations that erode your marital love.
32. Build friendships
with couples who are committed to staying satisfied in their marriage. Prov.
27:17.
33. Meditate on love
and romance building scriptures. Prov. 4:23
If you have any
questions, or other points you will like to share on this topic, feel free to post them in the comment section below.
We
will be posting other editions of Family Life Simplified subsequently. You can also share with your friends and loved ones.
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you!
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