Saturday, 17 June 2017

Who Do You Like?

Who do you like? What kind of people are you attracted to? Who do you enjoy hanging out with the most? Who is that one friend that you could gist with all night and never run out of things to talk about?  Which friend do you look for first when you walk into a room or open your social media?

Have you thought of someone? Maybe you thought of a few people.  What do they all have in common? Where do you usually see them? What kind of conversations do they have with you that keep you coming back for more?

If you have noticed that the answers to the above questions leave you feeling a bit bad about your character choices, then, this post is for you. The purpose of this post isn't to make you feel guilty about your past; instead it is to make you proactive about your future.  We have all made poor choices in friends at one time or the other. The key to a secure future isn't to wallow over yesterday's mistakes; it is to be intentional about our tomorrow.

Our friendships really matter. 

Friendships frame who we become and oftentimes are a reflection of who we are on the inside.

Let's keep it real... sometimes it's our naughty friends that are the most fun to be around. We enjoy the gossip, the stories and the opportunity to "let it all hang out" with friends whose standards are conveniently low. We appreciate that they don't judge us or hold us accountable to moral excellence. Sometimes, in this world of high stress, our naughty friends can feel like a breath of fresh air. 

Am I talking to someone now?

I thought so!

The part of us that thrives on unhealthy friendships with ungodly people is our flesh. We are a three part being. We are a spirit, we have a soul and we live in a body. Our body (flesh) is the lowest form of who we are and is able to be brought into subjection to the Word of God. 

Romans 12:1 (NLT) admonishes us to give our fleshly desires to God. It says,

And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice--the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him."

We don't have to live controlled by our flesh in our choice of friends. 

Psalm 1:1-3. (NKJV)

1.   Blessed is the man
    Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
    Nor stands in the path of sinners,
    Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;

2. But his delight is in the law of the Lord,
    And in His law he meditates day and night.

3. He shall be like a tree
    Planted by the rivers of water,
    That brings forth its fruit in its season,
    Whose leaf also shall not wither;
   And whatever he does shall prosper.
Matthew Henry's commentary of this scripture explains it so clearly that I am going to share his words with you verbatim.  We all need to get a hold of the powerful life lesson in this scripture. We need to understand how wrong associations will take us down the slippery slope of progressive sin. Romans 6:23 tells us what happens when we give into sin, "For the wages of sin is death..." It is talking about spiritual death or separation from God. We don't want to experience separation from God. Our eternal life depends on it. 

This is what Matthew Henry says:

"The character of a good man is here given by the rules he chooses to walk by and to take his measures from. What we take at our setting out, and at every turn, for the guide of our conversation, whether the course of this world or the word of God, is of material consequence. An error in the choice of our standard and leader is original and fatal; but, if we be right here, we are in a fair way to do well.1. A godly man, that he may avoid the evil, utterly renounces the companionship of evil-doers, and will not be led by them (v. 1): He walks not in the council of the ungodly, etc. This part of his character is put first, because those that will keep the commandments of their God must say to evil-doers, Depart from us (Ps. 119:115 ), and departing from evil is that in which wisdom begins. (1.) He sees evil-doers round about him; the world is full of them; they walk on every side. They are here described by three characters, ungodly, sinners, and scornful. See by what steps men arrive at the height of impiety: Nemo repente fuit turpissimus—None reach the height of vice at once. They are ungodly first, casting off the fear of God and living in the neglect of their duty to Him: but they rest not there. When the services of religion are laid aside, they come to be sinners, that is, they break out into open rebellion against God and engage in the service of sin and Satan. Omissions make way for commissions, and by these the heart is so hardened that at length they come to be scorners, that is, they openly defy all that is sacred, scoff at religion, and make a jest of sin. Thus is the way of iniquity down-hill; the bad grow worse, sinners themselves become tempters to others and advocates for Baal."

My prayer for you is that you will appreciate the blessings associated with choosing the right associates. 

Psalms 1 verse 3 talks about the stability that you will have when you make the right choices in friendship. If you truly study these verses and get a revelation of what it is saying, you will be quick to walk away from some people. You won't walk away because you don't like them, but you will do it in an act of obedience to God, commitment to your future and self-preservation. 

This exercise of intentionally choosing the right associates and friendships is one that will greatly enhance your spiritual life and walk with God. 

Obedience comes with major rewards.  It is initially hard to do, but, once you start experiencing the benefits of choosing the right friends, you will wish you had done it sooner. Hopefully, the next time you are asked "Who do you like?" your answer will be one that pleases God and that has the fruits of righteousness attached to it.


  1. Waoh...Love love this...Gid recently brought 2 lovely Ladies into my life and we try to meet once a week to refresh..we fashion..everything girlie..and am grateful to God for them.


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